Being a twenty-something, there are so many unknowns in life. Well, it’s really more like in life there’s so many unknowns in life.
Me and my friend’s conversations often revolve around what’s going to happen in our degree programs or where we’ll be living next year or if we’re going to pass that exam or where we’ll get a job some day soon. We’re floating in that in-between where we’re transitioning from being given all the answers to having none.We're in an in-between where we're going from being given all the answers to having none. Click To Tweet
Sometimes, one of the toughest things I find myself trying to do is to wait. When I want something, I want it now. Patience, you could say, is not my virtue. (Ya feel!?) It’s not even my friend. I know I make myself sound like a two-year-old, but go look at yourself in the mirror before you think that. How many times in your life have you had those same moments and not even realized it?
Right now, I’m waiting for so many things. I want to know where I’ll be placed for student teaching. Or where I’ll get a job a year from now. Or how much longer I’ll have to live in my parents’ house. Or who I’m going to become, and if I’ll ever get there. Some of these questions are tiny, while others encompass a lot more of my life.
If I had to summarize it all, though, I’d consider myself in a period of waiting. I’m waiting for the answers to huge questions, some that might not come for a few years. (Man, that is a scary thought.) As someone who wants to know it all and wants to know it all now, I find myself with too much anxiety.
Although I know everything will come together eventually, that creeping feeling slithers in when I least expect it. And it stays. So, let’s call it out: uncertainty. Uncertainty can take on so many different forms in your mind, but all of them become monsters.That uncertainty takes on so many different forms in ur mind, but all of them become monsters Click To Tweet
If we don’t recognize who those monsters really are, though, we can never beat the uncertainty. So, call them by their name: the devil. He lives there in our darkest thoughts, and waits for moments like these where he can really take hold of what we’re going through. He doesn’t mind twisting situations and planting fear where fear should never have been in the first place. In fact, I’d say he thrives on it.
The worst thing we can do in life is give attention to him, and let him win. When we do that, he just grows stronger and God’s role falls apart in our lives. Suddenly, we don’t trust God and not only that, but we think we don’t need Him either. We’ll be thinking; all He does is cast unanswerable questions into our mind anyway, making us always wait for something.
But…isn’t that just what the devil wants us to think?
When you’re in a period of waiting and you’re choosing to rely on the impatience and fear rather than God’s radiating love, what are you doing to yourself? It might seem like the answer is nothing, but examine your heart. Are you truly at peace and happy? My guess is probably not. Honestly, it’s probably more of the opposite.When ur choosing to rely on impatience & fear, what r u doing to yourself? Click To Tweet
Feeling like you need to rethink a few things right now? Yeah, me too. Here are some of the things I do when I feel this way.
MEET FRIENDS WHO ARE IN THE SAME PLACE YOU ARE
When you can create an environment of people who sympathize with what you’re going through, because they’ve been there too, you’re going to thrive. Find people who will pray for you and pray with you, because they know exactly how you’re feeling.
It’s so important to be able to vent your problems to those who are going through the same things, because you can build each other up in a way that others can’t. Cherish those venting sessions and times when you just pour your heart out to each other.
Knowing you’re not alone can push you through the thickest muck, in the dirtiest water. It will be your lighthouse when you feel like you have none.
GO TO ADORATION AND CONFESSION
Okay…what? Who the heck is this girl and why does she always bring religion into everything!? Yeah, sometimes I wonder that about myself too, but I swear my reasons are justified.
During this time when you’re just waiting for the next season in life , you’ll have some free space in your mind. Suddenly, you won’t be worrying about getting as many little tasks done throughout the day. Your thoughts will be in sort-of “rest mode”. I always find, though, that when I’m in that “mode”, my mind is able to drift off a lot more and I can evaluate things.
I will ask myself what I’ve been missing and realize that I always find a little void there: I haven’t been spending enough time getting my soul right with the Lord. And y’all, lemme tell ya, it’s so insanely important that you do. At any moment, this life could be taken from you. If it was…where would you end up?
Never make the mistake of thinking that this good thing we got goin’ on with planet Earth (ya know, being alive), is forever. Cause guess what? That’s the one thing I’m 100% sure you’re wrong about.
Use this extra void in life for good. Go to adoration and confession. Fix your soul and praise the Lord. He’s only going to bring you sweet lil’ blessin’s if you do. 🙂
MAKE YOURSELF BUSY
Alright, can I be real for a second here? Oh, wait, I kind-of always am. How about…can I be more real for a second?
When I find myself in one of these seemingly-sucky times, I can’t be bored. Boredom kills motivation and excitement in life faster than plants die when I try to take care of them (which is really fast). The more bored you are, the more anxious you’ll get for that change to get here more quickly. Of course, if we know a thing or two about life, we know that waiting for it like that will make it come so much more slowly. After all, a watched pot never boils. (True dat.)
Instead of wallowing around your house, stressing and feeling bad for the couch potato you’re quickly becoming, do something. If that means just simply exercising, do it. Maybe it means taking up a new skill for the future or reading that book that’s been on your list. Whatever it is, keep your mind working and growing.
The worst thing we can do is not utilize this waiting time.
REMEMBER WHY YOU’RE BEING PUT IN THIS WAITING PLACE
One of the easiest things to do when you’re in the waiting place is to get upset. You want your life to happen now and you want to know who you’re going to become now. However, you (YES YOU!) have been put in this period for a reason.
Instead of wishing it to be over, take a good, long walk and think about whose grand design placed you in this moment in time. If we know our Creator, we know it wasn’t for no reason. I mean, there’s not nearly enough time on this Earth to do anything without a reason behind it. We’ve barely got 100 years to learn all of our lessons. Do you really think God would waste a second of that?
In place of your confusion, stress and worry, change your mindset. Here are a few of my favorite quotes about playing the waiting game:
I am sure that God keeps no one waiting unless He sees that it is good for him to wait. –C.S. Lewis
And so it was that she having waited long and endured patiently realized and obtained what God had promised. –Hebrews 6:15
Hope means we must trust & wait for what is still unseen. –Romans 8.24
When the time is right, I, the Lord, will make it happen. –Isaiah 60.22
How do you effectively deal with these situations in life? Comment below,