I get it. It’s hard to know how to find a Godly man.
Honestly, it’s tough to just find a guy worth pursuing, let alone one that has a strong faith. However, it isn’t impossible. You need to make sure you’re doing everything you can to find him, even if sometimes you feel like you’re backtracking instead.
When it comes to dating, I’m no expert. I’ve had more romantic mess-ups than I could count.
Along the way, though, I learned. I picked myself back up and pushed forward yet again. I adjusted my course and set sail somewhere new.
And although I don’t have all the answers, this is what I find true about how to find a Godly man in today’s society.Although I don't have all the answers, this is what I find true about how to find a Godly man in today's society. Click To Tweet
1. Everything starts & ends with prayer.
If your end goal is to find a Godly man, you can’t do that if you’re not also “of God”. Right now, you’re single for a reason. Either God is trying to prepare you for marriage, or He’s trying to prepare you for a completely different path in life. In both instances, it’s prayer He’s asking you to come back to.
Read your Bible, because it says so much about how to live your life (honestly, that’s exactly what the Bible is). If you’re pining for a Godly man, first see what the Bible has to say about it. Then, see what the Bible has to say about you. How can you better yourself and grow right now, before you add on another component to the equation?
And if you’re truly feeling called to find a Godly man, make sure it’s a staple in your prayers each night. As Father Solanus Casey used to instruct us to do, thank God before He answers your prayer.
2. Don’t completely throw out dating apps.
I’m sure this point sounds crazy, and that everyone else may have told you the opposite. However, I think there’s something to be said for opening yourself up to new ways of finding people. It’s not impossible to go onto an app like Tinder or Bumble, and wind up finding the love of your life (who also happens to be religious).
Don’t ever rely solely on these apps, and don’t let them control your life, but I do think there is a time and place for them.
Keep in mind, though, ladies: while you may find a needle in a haystack on one of those apps, be prepared for all the hay you’re about to find, too.
3. Get involved in your local church.
I think this one goes without saying, but still deserves an honorable mention. If you really want to know how to find a godly man, in a practical way, involve yourself in your church. There are youth groups, prayer groups, bible studies, retreats, outreaches and way more–and they’re all a great place to focus your search.
If you’re looking for someone who’s actively serving the Lord, look to the place where you worship and don’t be afraid to say hi.
4. Readjust your focus from marriage to Jesus.
If all you’ve been typing into Google recently is, “how to find a Godly man,” we need to chat for a sec.
That’s awesome. I’m glad your focus is on a Godly man, and not a worldly one, but–is that your only focus? Is finding a guy the thing you’ve been thinking about non-stop the last few years? Do you see your friends getting married, and want nothing more than to be there too?
I get it. It’s hard to admit and you just want the kind of happiness you see virtually everyone else experiencing. But, can you not experience it in other ways? Have you thought of throwing marriage out the window for a second, and just sitting down to spend some time with the Lord?
Whether you worry about it or not, marriage (and finding a Godly man) is going to come when it comes. You can’t force it, and you can’t make it happen any faster (or at all). When you look at it that way, do you really want to have spent all your time worrying for no apparent reason?Whether you worry about it or not, marriage (and finding a Godly man) is going to come when it comes. You can't force it, and you can't make it happen any faster (or at all). Click To Tweet
Instead, you could be growing your relationship with Someone who is more important than anything else in this entire world.
5. Spend your time not figuring out how to find a Godly man.
This point builds on the last, but needed to be separated.
If you find yourself to wound up in thoughts of finding a man, stop. Just for a little while, do you. Enjoy where you’re at in life, without the pressure of having to share it with someone else. You’re in a unique time in your life when you can still do that.
One day, it’ll be a husband and kids you may have to share it all with. And as fun as that will be, it’ll also be tiring and stressful sometimes. So just for a little bit, enjoy the freedom.
Plus, the best moments come unexpectedly–at the time when you’re not even thinking about it at all.
What’s your number-one tip on how to find a Godly man in today’s society? Comment below! Love,